Why I’m Feeling Deflated With Social Media & Blogging

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The internet really is a mind field. Every day it grows. A new website is developed, a new blog post is written, a new social media platform evolves and another user logs on to the internet.

The whole concept of the internet completely blows my mind, we as a generation and society heavily now rely on search engines to ask our questions, solve our problems and even diagnose our medical conditions.

It’s a powerful use of technology which I massively appreciate but do wonder, what life would like without it and what was it like before it was developed? How would we cope?

No, the wonder elderly people complain about their families being consumed by their phones and social media because it must be so alien to them. As a 21-year-old, living in 2018 I’ve grown up with it and have known nothing different.

I’m feeling really deflated at the minute with my blog, the blogging world and social media. I’m almost sick of it. I’m sick of the superficial world within social media.

I envy bloggers who’ve ‘made it‘. By ‘made it‘ I mean created a career out of it. Who’ve gone viral on Instagram, who’ve got a clear voice on Twitter and who’ve reached their target audiences. But, then I think how much pressure they must be under because with popularity comes pressure and presence.

I try to not let the likes on Instagram reach and engagements get to me, even though it is a pain in the arse! I recently read that 70% of Instagram posts don’t get seen by followers since the algorithm update and it makes me think, what’s the point? What’s the point in putting all this effort in for a measly few likes? What’s even the point of the platform if we’re not going to be seen by the people who have CHOSEN TO FOLLOW US?!

What’s been really bugging me is the fakers. I’ve touched on this before on here before but some people never fail to amaze me at the lengths they’ll go through to keep up this ‘Instagram famous persona‘. I’d love to sit down with somebody who’s bought their followers to ask why they feel the need to fraud their friends, family even and worst of all businesses. Why and how do the fakers get so desperate? It’s not the be all and end all having x amount of Instagram followers.

I’ve felt a lack of inspiration for content creation. Maybe it’s because it’s the beginning of the year and everything’s, well a little bit dry. The likes of January, February are pretty boring for me, mainly because I’m skint of course and planning my holidays. I find it also really hard to be ‘different’. Differentiating yourself from other bloggers is also REALLY hard. The people who read my blog and enjoy my content, thank you.

While I’m on this rant, I’m also really over the bitching. As much as I love the blogging community, I am so over being nice to everyone because it’s rarely reciprocated which is really sad. Therefore, some people just don’t deserve the effort from me.

It irritates me when I see bloggers slating another blogger for their code of practice. Perhaps the world would be a better place as a whole if all just concentrated on our own lives instead of on others. Who am I or you to dedicate how someone else writes?

The internet can be a horrible, negative place sometimes and it’s best to just distance yourself from it. Cut out the negativity and focus on the positive.

One person who’s been restoring my faith in our niche has been Plain Sarah Jayne. I’ve told you all how great Sarah is before on here but I just want to say it again, she really is amazing! Sarah is such a lovely, genuine person who really inspires me and my blog. I love being around her and she’s killing it in the blogsphere. I really look forward to catching up with her every week!

Maybe I just need a little blog break, clear my head of these negative thoughts and focus on being more positive.

 

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37 Comments

  • Reply Rachel March 5, 2018 at 8:39 am

    I don’t disagree with you at all. I think so many people are so annoyed and fed up with those who bot and buy and it is a feeling that won’t go away anytime soon. It feels like such a slog to post anything anywhere and be a little figure drowning in a sea of nothingness as people continue to cheat and get away with it. Brands and PRs are at it as well which makes it even more annoying and sad. You call someone out, you get called a troll and worse and in the end everyone is scared to say something and then cryptic bitchy tweets appear, someone asks what you mean and the Chinese whispers start. It’s a never ending circle and some people should be ashamed of themselves because it is fraud at the end of the day x

    • Reply Alice March 5, 2018 at 10:36 am

      Thanks, Rachel. I am annoyed, I’m at my ends with it! I just wonder how people get so desperate? You’re right about calling people out and then being made out to be the bad one! I just tend to stay away from it all and keep myself to myself now. So true about it being a never-ending circle! x

  • Reply Poppy Mayy March 5, 2018 at 9:42 am

    I know exactly what you mean. Particularly with Instagram. Just the other day I thought I posted a really nice peice of content for it to then only be seen by about 30 people in 5 hours! Considering I have wayyyyyyy more followers than 30, you can imagine my frustration. I know alot of bloggers who are also getting fed up with people buying followers, bots and of course those less than helpful algorithm updates. However, as annoying as these things are, I think it helps me get back to the real reason why I started blogging in the first place – because I enjoy it. Every cloud has a silver liner I suppose.

    • Reply Alice March 5, 2018 at 10:37 am

      OMG! That is literally SO annoying! I’m really fed up with it, I’m actually bored of it. Hoping they get caught out sooner rather than later!

  • Reply Lady Writes March 5, 2018 at 9:45 am

    I really appreciated reading this. By no means do I feel like ‘I’ve made it’ as a blogger but as someone who has carved a career out of it, I wanted to give my opinion too. You hit the nail on the head when you said those of us who have made a career out of it, feel pressure. It’s insane the pressure it causes. I adore blogging and the life it’s given me but it’s harder than anyone could imagine. The pressure to constantly put out the best content, in the quickest time etc….I have had several blips but I finally found a comfortable place when I started posting for me. Yes, I’m still ruled by deadlines occasionally but when I took back control and posted what I wanted, when I wanted, I found it didn’t matter as much what happened afterwards. And as for instagram, it pains me too! But again, when I started my new grid theme, I loved it so now it doesn’t matter whether I get a handful of likes. If I like what I’m doing then I’m happier x

    • Reply Alice March 5, 2018 at 10:39 am

      Babe, I can only imagine what the pressure you must feel. It is hard, and not a lot of people appreciate just how hard it is! You should feel massively proud of yourself at what you’ve achieved! A lot of bloggers look up to you, including me! x

  • Reply Rosie March 5, 2018 at 9:46 am

    I feeeeeel this post so much. Insta sucks right now. Even though loads of us are putting out amazing content we aren’t being seen. Our blogs are then getting missed. It massively sucks. However I adore your content and will support you as much as I can!! Keep slaying girl

    • Reply Alice March 5, 2018 at 10:39 am

      I feel you girl! Thank you so much! x

  • Reply Sarah March 5, 2018 at 10:23 am

    I agree with this post completely, there are to many people out there either bitching and bad mouthing others or lying about their engagement, i wish it would go back to just blogging for writing what you know and love. instagram is the worst for it and I hate how some are so fake on the platform.x

    • Reply Alice March 5, 2018 at 10:39 am

      I totally agree! So annoying! x

  • Reply Emma March 5, 2018 at 12:32 pm

    Instagram is definitely annoying me atm, my engagement is like a rollercoaster, I’ll be doing some one week and then my likes will just halve out of nowhere! Wish they’d go back to chronological order and stop shadow banning people!
    Emma | emmadrury.com

    • Reply Alice March 6, 2018 at 11:52 am

      Mine too! I totally agree! x

  • Reply Gemma Louise March 5, 2018 at 1:37 pm

    I’m so fed up of people with fake followers and likes. I always look at accounts smaller than me and wonder how they have such good engagement to only later find out it’s all fake!

  • Reply Maisie March 5, 2018 at 3:27 pm

    Can I just say, gurl you look AMAZING!
    I’m totally on the fence with Instagram at the moment. I agree, it’s so frustrating putting so much hard work into something when your posts aren’t even being seen! The fake followers and likes etc are super annoying too as it just poops on all of us that have worked hard to build a genuine following :/

    • Reply Alice March 7, 2018 at 10:41 am

      I totally agree!

  • Reply Emily March 5, 2018 at 4:58 pm

    I totally feel you on this issue! It seems all social platforms are slowly making it harder and harder to be seen. The fact that our own followers don’t even see half the content we publish is a disgrace!! They need to sort themselves out.

    • Reply Alice March 7, 2018 at 10:42 am

      I agree!

  • Reply Sarah March 5, 2018 at 10:49 pm

    OMG! I feel so blown away by your kinds words babe! I feel like you and me just bounce off each other, and I love working with you in creating content and inspiring one another! I love this post. I think everyone is feeling a little fed up with the whole Instagram/blogging/social media thing. You know how I feel about the fakers, and there’s loads in our community who think we don’t know about it. You do you. Have a little break if you need to and then come back with a BANG 🙂

    xxx

    • Reply Alice March 7, 2018 at 10:42 am

      Aw thanks babe! xxx

  • Reply Prettiful Blog March 7, 2018 at 11:49 am

    I lead quite a private life, and prefer to keep my Twitter completely blog related. And leading the life I have, I do find it strange how so many people live their life through a lens, don’t enjoy a meal before photographing, don’t enjoy an event or company because they are too busy hashtagging. Maybe I am too old fashioned, haha.

    Another thing that gets to me is the hate of people’s opinions, especially on Twitter. We can’t say anything these days without some troll coming along.

    Anyway, I completely agree, and I think sometimes the best thing to do is to take a step back.

    But always know, you are killing it with your content, and your outfits Girl!

    • Reply Alice March 8, 2018 at 10:33 am

      I feel exactly the same! Maybe I am too?! Thank you so much xx

  • Reply Victoria March 8, 2018 at 9:50 pm

    I’ve been blogging for six years and my love-hate relationship with the online world has definitely grown since the beginning. It was all fun and fine and dandy and then it became a competition about numbers and posts and reach and the platforms don’t work WITH us. It’s just hard! I think ‘why bother?’ a lot of the time, too. The follow/unfollow on every platform does my head in and makes me want to throw in the towel. Just argh. I’m a big ball of frustration. I get it.

    BUT.

    Girl, you killin’ it. You’re bangin’ and your content is too, so keep it up!

    xo, Victoria

    • Reply Alice March 9, 2018 at 11:43 am

      Ah thank you so much! x

  • Reply Yasmina March 9, 2018 at 6:38 am

    This is such a good post and has made me feel so much better and so less alone on the situation! The blogging world has grown so much and it’s all a competition now with numbers and statistics whereas four years ago when I first started it was never like that. I hate the whole follow/unfollow game because it’s so hard to just grow your platforms organically. Your doing so well! 🙂 xx

    Yasmina | The July Journal

    • Reply Alice March 9, 2018 at 11:43 am

      I totally agree! Thank you so much! xx

  • Reply Sarah Chappell March 12, 2018 at 9:11 am

    I agree with post completely – it’s so annoying. The internet can be a negative place – its need a bit more positivity.
    Sarah x

    • Reply Alice March 14, 2018 at 4:34 pm

      I agree! x

  • Reply Kelly-Anne March 12, 2018 at 1:35 pm

    I feel you beautiful. I agree with this post completely, there are to many people out there either bitching and bad mouthing others or lying about their engagement. Or bragging. Sometimes wish it would go back to just blogging for writing.

    • Reply Alice March 14, 2018 at 4:34 pm

      Me too! x

  • Reply Cat Williams March 12, 2018 at 7:33 pm

    Completely agree with you Alice, as I said the other night, I’ve learnt to delete the reply that I think I need to write and just let it go. It’s just not worth the hassle. REAL LIFE is so much more important

    Cat xxx

    • Reply Alice March 14, 2018 at 4:34 pm

      I hear ya sister!! So true! xxx

  • Reply Mel March 14, 2018 at 7:12 am

    I really agree with you on this. It’s hard to keep your head above water and work away and put in the effort to push on and grow for others to bypass you by cheating and being fake.

    http://littlemissmelanie.com

    • Reply Alice March 14, 2018 at 4:34 pm

      Can’t agree more!

  • Reply Angela March 14, 2018 at 10:45 pm

    Omfg so much YES to this post!

    • Reply Alice March 19, 2018 at 10:14 am

      <3

  • Reply last year's girl March 19, 2018 at 4:21 pm

    I completely understand your frustration, Alice. I just clicked through to your Instagram – something I always do when I’m reading a blog post as my way of giving two fingers to the algorithm – and it’s looking absolutely beautiful right now. Yet I’ve not seen any of those pics in my feed even though I’ve been following you for years.

    I think all we can really do is keep on keeping on, and putting out the best content we can for ourselves and our readers. We’ll always be at the mercy of whatever third party platforms we use, but you work so hard and we readers appreciate you! x

    • Reply Alice March 20, 2018 at 10:09 am

      Thanks lovely! It’s so annoying!!! x

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