Well is there? Because if there is, I’d love to give it a read.
I’ve had my own battle with body confidence and positivity in the past but now I feel like I’m happy with what I see in the mirror. I don’t loathe my body, nor do I think it’s perfect. I always see areas of improvement looking back at me but honestly, right now I’m ok with how I look.
I’ve decided to talk about this subject today because we’re in that media-period of ‘New Year, New You!’. It’s all marketing bull-sh** realistically isn’t it? You can change your lifestyle and lose weight any day of the year it’s just magnified and fueled with steroids in January, isn’t it?
I’m guilty of falling into the placebo effect of ‘it’s a fresh start’ marketing ploys but realistically I eat well 70% of the time, the whole year. I work hard in the gym and try to make healthy choices all year round because if I didn’t I’d be miserable.
I go hard in the gym for a few reasons but the main benefit for me is the mental benefit. The way exercise makes me feel is indescribable. I feel like I can fly! The physical benefits are also a massive advantage too.
I fell in love with exercise in 2015 after ending a six-year relationship. I turned to it, to take my mind off things and it worked for me. I dropped a stone or two and I felt amazing. I always thought I had more weight to lose though, even at the skinniest point in my life! I look back at pictures now and I can’t believe I thought I was ‘fat’.
I also look back at those pictures and realise how unhappy I was at that point in my life, I was consumed by the constant drama, vodka and the gym. I would go to the gym, morning, noon and night, 6 even 7 times a week. I would even have a strict rule not to plan anything on weeknights as it was purely gym time… what a saddo, and then I’d binge on vodka at the weekend. I sharp learned that I was doing more damage to my body than good. I overworked myself and under ate essentially.
I then discovered balance, life must always come first not the gym or a diet. I sometimes fall back into old habits though, pushing my self too hard at the gym and end up making myself ill or run down. When I started ‘living’, realising there was more to life than exercising and healthy eating I met my current partner and focused on me. Life’s too short after all!
I do also often go backwards in my body positivity journey because, mainly around my time of the month, I despise myself and go all negative. I binge eat and pile weight on, but that’s ok. I’m only human.
It’s ok to eat, it’s ok to not go to the gym and it’s ok to love yourself no matter what you look like, no matter what shape you are or how big your bum and boobs are. The more people start learning about body positivity and accepting who they are the better and the more the media’s perspective on how society THINKS we should look, is forgotten about.
I’ve jotted down some tips that you can do on a daily basis that, with time, will help you see how truly beautiful and wondrous you are:
1. Look In The Mirror
An obvious one but look at yourself, be vain, smile, point, you are you.
2. Find Something In Each Day
It’s not a bad life, appreciate the good in every day! Whether it’s your hair looks glossy today, or your brows on fleek or maybe you just felt the sun on your face. SAVOUR IT!
3. Practice Self-Care Every Day
When you spend time caring for yourself, you will see all the beauty that is you. Self-care can include taking a radox bath, read a good book, enjoying a glass of wine or even trying a new lipstick. Do it for you!
4. Get Rid Of The Scales
You are more than a number.
5. Don’t Compare Yourself To A Previous Version Of You
Our bodies change as we grow and age. This is completely natural. My hips are definitely way bigger now than when I was 18, unfair, but hey I’m a woman now not a teenager.
With fashion, hairstyles or makeup – Have fun in creating a you that is different from everyone else. Being different is a good thing.
7. Use Social Media
In a positive way! Don’t compare. Look for other body-positive women or men, for example, Winnie Harlow. I personally take such inspiration from her.
Celebrate being you, for you, in all your glory. You are you, that’s your superpower.
In Collaboration with Lasula*