Is There A Guide To Being Body Positive?

Jumper – Lasula | Jeans – Primark | Boots – Primark | Bag – Primark

Well is there? Because if there is, I’d love to give it a read.

I’ve had my own battle with body confidence and positivity in the past but now I feel like I’m happy with what I see in the mirror. I don’t loathe my body, nor do I think it’s perfect. I always see areas of improvement looking back at me but honestly, right now I’m ok with how I look.

I’ve decided to talk about this subject today because we’re in that media-period of ‘New Year, New You!’. It’s all marketing bull-sh** realistically isn’t it? You can change your lifestyle and lose weight any day of the year it’s just magnified and fueled with steroids in January, isn’t it?

I’m guilty of falling into the placebo effect of ‘it’s a fresh start’ marketing ploys but realistically I eat well 70% of the time, the whole year. I work hard in the gym and try to make healthy choices all year round because if I didn’t I’d be miserable.

I go hard in the gym for a few reasons but the main benefit for me is the mental benefit. The way exercise makes me feel is indescribable. I feel like I can fly! The physical benefits are also a massive advantage too.

I fell in love with exercise in 2015 after ending a six-year relationship. I turned to it, to take my mind off things and it worked for me. I dropped a stone or two and I felt amazing. I always thought I had more weight to lose though, even at the skinniest point in my life! I look back at pictures now and I can’t believe I thought I was ‘fat’.

I also look back at those pictures and realise how unhappy I was at that point in my life, I was consumed by the constant drama, vodka and the gym. I would go to the gym, morning, noon and night, 6 even 7 times a week. I would even have a strict rule not to plan anything on weeknights as it was purely gym time… what a saddo, and then I’d binge on vodka at the weekend. I sharp learned that I was doing more damage to my body than good. I overworked myself and under ate essentially.

I then discovered balance, life must always come first not the gym or a diet. I sometimes fall back into old habits though, pushing my self too hard at the gym and end up making myself ill or run down. When I started ‘living’, realising there was more to life than exercising and healthy eating I met my current partner and focused on me. Life’s too short after all!

I do also often go backwards in my body positivity journey because, mainly around my time of the month, I despise myself and go all negative. I binge eat and pile weight on, but that’s ok. I’m only human.

It’s ok to eat, it’s ok to not go to the gym and it’s ok to love yourself no matter what you look like, no matter what shape you are or how big your bum and boobs are. The more people start learning about body positivity and accepting who they are the better and the more the media’s perspective on how society THINKS we should look, is forgotten about.

I’ve jotted down some tips that you can do on a daily basis that, with time, will help you see how truly beautiful and wondrous you are:

1. Look In The Mirror

An obvious one but look at yourself, be vain, smile, point, you are you.

2. Find Something In Each Day

It’s not a bad life, appreciate the good in every day! Whether it’s your hair looks glossy today, or your brows on fleek or maybe you just felt the sun on your face. SAVOUR IT!

3. Practice Self-Care Every Day

When you spend time caring for yourself, you will see all the beauty that is you. Self-care can include taking a radox bath, read a good book, enjoying a glass of wine or even trying a new lipstick. Do it for you!

4. Get Rid Of The Scales

You are more than a number.

5. Don’t Compare Yourself To A Previous Version Of You

Our bodies change as we grow and age. This is completely natural. My hips are definitely way bigger now than when I was 18, unfair, but hey I’m a woman now not a teenager.

6. Experiment

With fashion, hairstyles or makeup – Have fun in creating a you that is different from everyone else. Being different is a good thing.

7. Use Social Media

In a positive way! Don’t compare. Look for other body-positive women or men, for example, Winnie Harlow. I personally take such inspiration from her.

Celebrate being you, for you, in all your glory. You are you, that’s your superpower.

 

In Collaboration with Lasula*

38 Comments

  • Reply Sarah January 29, 2018 at 10:38 am

    I agree with the social media, while ive had a bad time with it in the past, i try and not think of that and just enjoy what social media can offer, ive met some wonderful people on social media lately and im blessed to know them x

    • Reply Alice January 29, 2018 at 10:49 am

      I totally agree Sarah x

  • Reply Angela January 29, 2018 at 10:54 am

    I totally get it. I look back on photos where I was a size 4/6 and I was SO unhappy with myself and SO concerned with being too overweight. Now I’m a happy size 10/12 and I’m the most body confident I’ve ever been! Stretch marks and all!

    Like you, I still see improvements that could be made when I look in the mirror but for the most part I’m content and I don’t hate my body the way that I used to when I was younger and thinner.

    You’ve listed some really helpful things to do to help ! I also agree with social media, I know it can be easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to other but I don’t tend to. Just like with the VS Fashion Show every year, some of my friends get so upset watching it but when I look at it I see the angels as motivation and acceptance of all different body shape & sizes.

    Great post babe xx

    • Reply Alice January 29, 2018 at 1:17 pm

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment! I agree with everything you’ve said, I used to be the same! You need to accept yourself, flaws and all to become body positive! We’re all different shapes and sizes and no one is perfect despite what the media reports! x

  • Reply Gina January 29, 2018 at 10:55 am

    I think it’s so hard to be body positive if you’re our age – but this post is so good! Love the jumper too you look fab xx

    • Reply Alice January 29, 2018 at 1:17 pm

      I agree! Thanks Gina xx

  • Reply Prettiful Blog January 29, 2018 at 11:07 am

    Thank you for sharing these great tips. I was always pretty fit, but since turning 30 I find it so hard to eat the way I used to and still feel good. I have never had to worry about putting on weight but age really does slow down the metabolism.

    • Reply Alice January 29, 2018 at 1:17 pm

      Lifes about living not calories!

  • Reply Shauna January 29, 2018 at 11:50 am

    I absolutely love the tips you’ve shared! I know I have definitely struggled with body confidence and continue to do so.

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    • Reply Alice January 29, 2018 at 1:18 pm

      Thanks Shauna, hope you can get to where you want to be with your body positivity soon! 🙂

  • Reply Emma January 29, 2018 at 12:20 pm

    It’s so easy to compare yourself to others – I struggled with that for the longest time but feel so much better now I’ve just accepted my natural body! Great post.
    Emma | emmadrury.com

    • Reply Alice January 29, 2018 at 1:19 pm

      Thanks Emma, I feel you sister! I used to be the same, now I’ve just accepted I’m me! And that’s not going to change 🙂 x

  • Reply Rosie January 29, 2018 at 3:22 pm

    I think this post is so important! I have a very strange relationship with my body and I don’t think I’ve ever loved myself. I often look in the mirror and think how imperfect I am and it can really get me down!

    • Reply Alice January 30, 2018 at 9:23 am

      Aw Rosie, you’re beautiful! x

  • Reply Emily January 29, 2018 at 3:27 pm

    This is so important and it’s so refreshing to read this. Your tips are really good for days when we’re all feeling low and something to try and incorporate daily! Fab post x

    • Reply Alice January 30, 2018 at 9:24 am

      Thanks Emily! x

  • Reply Sarah Chappell January 29, 2018 at 4:17 pm

    This is a lovely post and I totally agree. My scales are well hidden now as they make me so under confident.
    Sarah X

    • Reply Alice January 30, 2018 at 9:24 am

      As do mine, I’ve gotten rid of mine! x

  • Reply Chloe January 29, 2018 at 4:46 pm

    This is such a fantastic post, Alice! I’ve been so bloated atm and been feeling awful about my weight and this has really helped to perk me up! You’re a gem!

    • Reply Alice January 30, 2018 at 9:24 am

      Ah thanks babe! You’re amazing, always remember that! x

  • Reply Maisie January 29, 2018 at 8:19 pm

    I am always comparing myself to other people, especially on social media. It’s such a bad habit but sometimes I just can’t help it! After having a baby, I’m trying to love my body for what it is and what it has done but it’s so hard when I look in the mirror and hate what I see!

    I know it doesn’t help, but I for one think you look FANTASTIC(and your jumper is gorgeous!)

    • Reply Alice January 30, 2018 at 9:25 am

      Don’t! Your body is amazing, go you! Thank you x

  • Reply Mel January 30, 2018 at 10:21 am

    A really well written and inspiring post which is a great reminder to us all when we are too critical of ourselves.

    Thank you for sharing this.

    http://littlemissmelanie.com

    • Reply Alice January 30, 2018 at 3:43 pm

      Thank you so much!

  • Reply Gemma Louise January 31, 2018 at 10:35 pm

    I wouldn’t say I’m body confident but I’ve learnt to accept how I am. I’ve learnt that no matter how much exercise I do, the shape of my hips isn’t going to change and little things like that. And I’m definitely a lot more comfortable with myself than I used to be. I know I’m not fat, I’m just not as skinny as other girls and that’s okay! I’ve had a baby too so I have a little bit of an excuse right?!

    • Reply Alice February 1, 2018 at 9:32 am

      I feel exactly the same! You go girl! x

  • Reply Meera February 1, 2018 at 9:44 am

    Some great tips for staying body positive! I also recently got out of a 2 year relationship and have really turned to exercise, like you it helps me take my mind of things and feel happier in my body. Doing exercise is supposed to actually release good enorphins! Great post x

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    • Reply Alice February 1, 2018 at 2:58 pm

      Thanks Meera and good luck! x

  • Reply Yasmina February 1, 2018 at 10:07 pm

    Your not the only one who wishes there was a guide to body positivity. I find it so hard to be body confident and often hide in slouchy things because I’m scared 🙂 xx

    Yasmina | The July Journal

    • Reply Alice February 2, 2018 at 9:15 am

      Thanks Yasmina xx

  • Reply Sarah February 2, 2018 at 11:40 pm

    Babe this is such a good post and your tips are amazing! Definitely going to do the Look In The Mirror one!

    xxx

    • Reply Alice February 5, 2018 at 1:34 pm

      Thanks lovely! 🙂 You go girl! xxx

  • Reply Kelly-Anne February 4, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    Oh this is perfect beautiful and what an inspiring post. You’re totally rocking that gorgeous jumper

    • Reply Alice February 5, 2018 at 1:36 pm

      Thanks Kelly!

  • Reply Chloe February 16, 2018 at 12:55 pm

    Body confidence is something I’ve mastered the last few years, it’s so important to learn to love yourself, exerise definitely helps me as well, I find it’s a mind thing as well as physical xx

    http://www.simplychlo.co.uk

    • Reply Alice February 19, 2018 at 1:04 pm

      Couldn’t agree more! xx

  • Reply Poppy Mayy February 20, 2018 at 6:45 pm

    I really agree with all of your points. Personally, for me, I feel my best about myself when all things in my life are balanced in terms of time and effort.

    • Reply Alice February 21, 2018 at 1:22 pm

      I agree!

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