There’s a question for you! Let’s talk about love today, love, oh that makes the world go round.
Have you been in love before? I’ve had two serious boyfriends in my life. The first, a childhood sweetheart shall we call it, I met him when I was fourteen, way back when I was a young pup, not on social media. We met at our local bus station before I was even on Facebook! We stayed in each other’s lives for almost six years. When we called it quits on our turbulent love affair, throughout my single period, I found myself looking for Mr Right via the internet.
The second serious boyfriend, is Jorden, my amazing other half who I’m with now. I’ve been with him for a year and a half. We met via social media and that’s what got me thinking. Is social media the route to finding love in our generation? Modern day? Society? I’ve known Jorden for years, we used to chat way back in the days of MSN. And then when unlimited texts became a thing we used to text constantly, I think I was in year seven then, way before the first boyfriend. You see, what is meant to be, will always find a way and all that jazz. That Mr Right I’d been looking for was already in my contact list! Strange isn’t it? How we just got together years later.
The story of how we got together is pretty hilarious actually, he kept liking all my photos, posts, tweets, you name it. He liked them all! He’ll argue when he reads this and says it was me who started it, but I simply just returned that favour. I’ve always found him attractive so when I saw him, paying attention to my posts and pictures I awaited the message in my inbox. He waited for AGES to message me, I was totally fuming. We must have been at it for at least a month and a half, liking each other’s stuff constantly. I bet your all thinking, well why didn’t you just message him? Yeah, I considered it, I was just nervous in case he pied me! I wrote a tweet, as the last final plea for him to message me saying “When will some people just get the hint?!” With a Christina Aguilera gif blowing a kiss. And it worked! He FINALLY messaged me on Instagram. The rest of our love story is history and here we are today, happy as larry. I’m so grateful to have met him, he’s opened a completely different world for me. We just click.
I wonder, if without social media if I would have ever met him. In our ordinary lives, I’m not sure our paths would have crossed as we don’t hang around at same bars or even in the same area. He lives the complete other side of my city. BUT? Fate always finds a way I guess. It’s mental when you think about it, and I’m personally really grateful for social media because it’s found me, THE ONE. My love story might sound a little cringy to the outside, but I’m totally love with it.
I tried Tinder a couple of times for a laugh on my quest for love before I met Jorden, all my friends were on it and it seemed like a good thing to do when I was bored. The messages I received were rather erm, disgusting. There are a whopping seven million monthly users on Tinder and there’s a 50/50 split between men and women. So surely there’s someone on there for everyone?! I didn’t have a great experience with it at all, but I do know couples who met via Tinder and I even know someone who had a Tinder baby. Yes, you read that right, A TINDER BABY! She met her baby daddy on the app! According to a report conducted by Tinder cupids, two surveys comparing its users with offline daters revealed that Tinder users are more likely to be looking for a committed relationship than are offline daters. The surveys they conducted indicated that Tinder users were doing a better job than offline daters signalling “investment in prospective daters” by asking them questions when originally contacting them and that they are 5 percent more likely to say “I love you” to their partners in the first year of dating. I can’t say I found those men on Tinder at all.
Perhaps we feel more comfortable chatting behind a keyboard and a screen before we really invest real life time and energy on a person? Gone are the days of meeting someone in a bar that’s for sure eh? I find it fascinating thinking about how my aunt and uncle met each other back before the internet.
Where did you meet your other half?
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