7 Things Love Island Has Taught Us About Dating & Relationships in 2018 (So Far!)

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The ITV2’s hit show Love Island returned back to our screens this month with a bang, introducing us to a handful of singles ready to mingle! Its popularity reached a whole new level of crazy  last year after an explosive summer of love. As a nation, we invested time and emotion into the relationship that we sought after from the very beginning, all the way to the final.

I for one was completely devastated to hear the dreadful news that Marcel had cheated on Gabby WHILST THEY WERE ON HOLIDAY TOGETHER?! Who’d have thought it?! I was however over the moon to read that Kem and Chris have ended their villa relationships this year. I was never a fan of Amber and Olivia.

If the first-night viewing figures are anything to go by, it looks like Love Island 2018 is going to be even bigger and better. It’s estimated that the show was the highest rating programme at 9 pm across all digital channels, winning the slot with 2.9m viewers and 16.4% share, peaking with a staggering 3.4m viewers. So why are we all hooked on this simple storyline dating show?!

We as a generation thrive off reality television and the drama that comes with it. When I watch the likes of The Only Way is Essex it’s pure escapism for me. I’m nosey. I want to know other peoples business, god knows why. Perhaps it’s because when I see/hear of drama I feel lucky my life is pretty much drama free and get to sit back with some popcorn and let the ructions unfold, knowing it’s nothing to do with me or my life.

What I think draws us into Love Island specifically is the relatability. We’ve all been in love, we’ve all had our heart broken, we’ve all watched our ex’s neck on with another girl in front of our faces. Basically, we’ve all experienced a romantic relationship like the contestants and it’s the fact we get to witness and follow every step of those relationships that build on the show.

I’m in a very happy, long-term relationship and the thought of dating in 2018 terrifies me. These blokes on Love Island make me appreciate how honest, thoughtful, committed and all round amazing my other half is and how lucky I am to have a boyfriend like I do. Their behaviour on this latest series is scandalous, as is the girls though!

The year’s show is teaching me a lot about modern-day dating and relationships and I thought I’d put together a post on the lessons I’ve learnt so far.

1) Being dumped never gets any easier and can come out of nowhere

My heart broke for Laura last week when Wes shamelessly dumped her the minute he’d had his head turned by Megan AFTER he’d filled her head with absolute sh*t. Laura hun, you’re not the first girl this has happened to and you won’t be the last. Put on your best bikini and show him what’s he’s missing. Being dumped is possibly the worst feeling in the world, especially when you aren’t expecting it but everything happens for a reason!

2) Men change their mind and say stuff they don’t mean

And they’re entitled to change their minds, but just don’t say stuff you don’t mean or sugar coat how you feel in fear you’ll upset us, women. I think often men say things to us women that they think they’ll want us to hear and that’s all good and well until we get our hearts smashed up into a million pieces. I felt for Rosie when Adam suddenly changed his mind about wanting to commit to her and immediately wanted to get with Zara. I’m sure at one point he told her he ‘just found her attractive’, Rosie should have known then!

3) Never give up on love

When are they going to send a wifey in there for good old Doctor Love, Alex. He’s been pied more times in 4 weeks than I have in my lifetime, the poor thing. But after every knock, he’s gotten back up and remained positive that he might just meet the women of his dreams in there. We’re all rooting for you Alex, don’t give up.

4) Personality always wins vs vanity

I’ve seen countless meme’s about the villa’s sweetheart Jack, one about him being a pen salesman, and then about his figure compared to Adam’s. Adam is a good looking guy, I get it, but he is a pr*ck. He’s one of those blokes who thinks just because he’s got a nice face that entitles him to do whatever he wants and treat people, however, he wants. Well no, that’s not cute. Jack, on the other hand, is funny, decent looking, thoughtful, loving and that always wins. Beauty is only skin deep, it’s what’s inside that counts! Remeber that.

5) Casual intimacy is mildly just accepted

We’re the Geordie Shore generation, I understand. It’s normal to ‘do bits’ on the telly these days and as a 22-year-old woman, it doesn’t make me blink twice whereas as my Mam, would ordinarily be shocked but now she isn’t. We are just used to it and it’s quite liberating for women as it’s usually women that get slammed for being intimate on the TV and the men just get away with it. I’ve not seen any striking headlines this series about bedroom antics.

6) Grafting is attractive

Effort is attractive. Taking the time to get to know someone at the beginning of a relationship is crucial. Presuming you can get into someone pants after 5 minutes is a huge turn-off. I was quite shocked to see Eyal begging Megan (when they were a thing!) to talk to him because he was worried their relationship was purely sexual, how the roles have changed. The grafting stage of any relationship is always the most exciting!

7) Romance isn’t dead

Putting aside the fact that some of the men in the villa are purely in there for ‘just a bit of fun’ and not love, there are a few darlings in there looking for a wifey. Take Jack, for instance, always laying his cards on the table and making Dani breakfast in bed. You always see him doing little things for her too which is incredibly cute. He makes me believe that romance isn’t dead and there are some decent guys out there for any single ladies. Keep believing gals!

No doubt as the series progresses our eyes will be opened even further! What have you learnt about dating and relationships this year?

36 Comments

  • Reply Chloe - New Girl in Toon July 2, 2018 at 5:55 am

    LOVE THIS!!! Such a great idea for a blog post! I am completely hooked, I thought after the first few episodes that I wouldn’t enjoy it as much as last year but OMG it is so good! Definitely makes me very thankful that I’m not a young girl dating in 2018 … Simon was up front and honest with me from the word go and it’s a shame that all men can’t treat women with the same amount of respect!

    Can’t wait to see what happens next!

    • Reply Alice July 3, 2018 at 8:57 am

      Thanks Chloe! Me too, I love the drama. I’m the same, it terrifies me! x

  • Reply Cora @ Tea Party Princess July 2, 2018 at 11:14 am

    This is fab 🙂
    Jack and Dani are so cute.
    Cora | http://www.teapartyprincess.co.uk/

    • Reply Alice July 3, 2018 at 8:57 am

      Love those guys!

  • Reply Emma July 2, 2018 at 5:19 pm

    I only started watching recently but the show is just so addictive!! I’ve only ever been in two relationships so consider myself fairly sheltered but it’s crazy to see how quickly people fall for each other in that situation!
    Emma | emmadrury.com

    • Reply Alice July 3, 2018 at 8:58 am

      It’s SO addictive! I know me too! x

  • Reply Yasmina Magdy July 2, 2018 at 5:59 pm

    I love watching Love Island in the evenings and your so right! Men can change their minds as quickly as I change my underwear. It must be so difficult being in the villa compared to dating or being in a relationship outside but it just goes to show that there are kind people out there who do just want love xx

    Yasmina | The July Journal

    • Reply Alice July 3, 2018 at 8:58 am

      Me too, the highlight of my day! Haha! x

  • Reply Mel July 3, 2018 at 6:56 am

    Such a great post and everything is so accurate.
    I love Jack and Dani!

    http://littlemissmelanie.com

    • Reply Alice July 3, 2018 at 9:00 am

      They’re my favourite!

  • Reply Rosie July 3, 2018 at 1:40 pm

    I’m loving love Island so far but it is so funny how many life lessons are coming out of it so soon. Laura and Wes situation showed being dumped is horrible at any age or stage of relationship!

    • Reply Alice July 4, 2018 at 8:35 am

      I know, and what about Georgia now?

  • Reply Gemma Louise July 3, 2018 at 7:54 pm

    I don’t watch love island but I gave up on men a long time ago hahaha!

    • Reply Alice July 4, 2018 at 8:35 am

      Don’t give up one love!

  • Reply Alisha Valerie July 4, 2018 at 1:12 pm

    I personally don’t watch Love Island but I love your pictures in this blog post ✨

    With love, Alisha Valerie x | AlishaValerie.com

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:31 pm

      Thank you!

  • Reply Sarah Chappell July 4, 2018 at 8:32 pm

    Love this post!! Totally agree about Adam being a pr*ck 😉 They do change there minds very quickly (Megan and Adam ;))
    Sarah X

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:36 pm

      Thanks Sarah! x

  • Reply Prettiful Blog July 5, 2018 at 1:20 pm

    I haven’t watched love island but I do enjoy the comments on Twitter!

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:36 pm

      Twitter is great entertainment isn’t it!

  • Reply Shauna July 5, 2018 at 6:38 pm

    I don’t actually watch Love Island (shock horror!) but I thought this was a really great post! I also think your outfit in these photos is absolutely amazing!

    Shauna | https://goddessguide.co.uk

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:36 pm

      Thank you so much 🙂

  • Reply Rebecca July 5, 2018 at 8:14 pm

    Heartbreak does come from nowhere and its nkt even your partners that can do it. Thats why it never gets easier x

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:36 pm

      I totally agree! x

  • Reply Kelly-Anne July 6, 2018 at 10:04 am

    What a fabulous idea for a blog post beautiful. There are so many douche bags in that villa, clearly not in there to find love.

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:37 pm

      I totally agree! x

  • Reply Sarah July 6, 2018 at 2:50 pm

    I wish i was invested in Love Island like everyone else but i have to agree with the points you covered on this post

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:38 pm

      Thanks Sarah!

  • Reply Katrina Frances July 6, 2018 at 10:04 pm

    I love this – it’s so accurate and I’m addicted to Love Island!
    I’m also happy I’m in a long term relationship haha I couldn’t imagine dating now!
    Your photos are incredible, I love your outfit x

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:42 pm

      Me too! Thank you so much x

  • Reply Lisa July 7, 2018 at 8:18 am

    It’s the first year I’ve watched it as the only reality tv I watch is RPDR. I’m with you. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and I don’t think I could go back out and date when you see guys like this being manipulative with their words it’s just wrong!

    • Reply Alice July 11, 2018 at 3:42 pm

      I’d really struggle!

  • Reply Maisie July 11, 2018 at 5:35 pm

    I think I’d be terrified to be dating in this day and age too! Loved this post so much! I do find it super interesting as to what the one thing is that drives us all crazy for Love Island? The numbers are insane!
    I’ve read a lot of Love Island related posts and articles over the last few weeks but this is by far my favourite so far!
    Ps, LOVE the dress! x

    • Reply Alice July 12, 2018 at 2:41 pm

      Thanks Maisie! x

  • Reply Hayley Williams July 17, 2018 at 2:19 pm

    Love this post! I’m obsessed with Love Island again this year and although some of the men are pigs, I do think we shouldn’t assume all are like this! But yes, a little romance every now and again never hurt nobody! Xx

    • Reply Alice July 18, 2018 at 9:53 am

      Thanks Hayley! xx

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