5 Things I’ve Learnt In 2017

Tracksuit – MissPap | Sleeveless Jacket – New Look | Shoes – Primark

2017 has been a whirlwind for me. Not sure about you guys, but this year feels like it’s flown. That’s what happens when you’re an adult isn’t it, time flies. Years feel like weeks, hours feel like minutes and days feel like hours. It’s bizarre. I’m totally over being an adult this year too, it’s so overrated. I look back at my teenage years and think about how much I wanted to grow up and find myself, and now, present day, I think about how much I wish I was a carefree teenager! You live and you learn. And that’s the theme around today’s post, important life lessons I’ve learnt in 2017.

Friendship

Friendship is something I’ve definitely learnt the meaning of this year. I’ve evaluated the people in my life, what they bring to me and it’s resulted in me losing a few friends along the way. I haven’t just said right, bye. Situations and a series of events have happened this year that has really made me realise who my true and real friends are. When you’re in school, you’re told by teachers, parents and family that these friends you make will be friends for life but that’s definitely not true for me. Some of my closest friends at school have now simply become acquaintances. Acquaintances that I have on Facebook or Instagram, I see in bars in town or bump into in Sainsbury’s. It’s a shame, but people’s lives move at different speeds. You almost outgrow people. I left sixth form and got a job, I grew up very quick whereas some of my other friends, now acquaintances, went to UNI and spent their weeknights going out, not going to bed early because they had work in the morning like me. I still have a close relationship with two or three girls I went to school with and it’s nice to have a small circle, to be honest, it’s less bitchy and less drama. We all lead busy lives now, we’ve all taken very different paths but we still make time for each other. I may not see my school friends as often as I’d like but they’re only a text away and it’s vice versa.

Effort and a two-way relationship are what makes a friendship work. When it’s only one way, and you’re making all the effort it gets hard. Distance yourself, see who reaches out to you. I’ve done that and learnt a lot. You can do so much for a person, yet have it all thrown back in your face and be left disappointed, but that’s just the way it is. I’ve learnt from fake friendships.

Family

Family, where life begins and love never ends. I love that quote. And it’s so true. I wouldn’t be who I am today without my family and I am eternally grateful. This year has been a tough one for us, we’ve had to deal with certain situations and be strong together to get through it all and we have. There is no better support system than your family. My Mam is my hero and I look up to her so much. Your Mam is your first and only best friend, she knows you like no other. I’ve learnt this year that my family mean so much more to be than I ever thought.

Career

Work has made me learn a lot about myself. This year I got a new job, it took a lot of courage, fear and anxiety to move on from a job where I’d found my feet within the working world and was comfy in. I’ve said this so many times on here but a comfort zone is a very nice place to be in but no one ever grows in a comfort zone and it was my time to grow. I’ve learnt that you have to love your job, you have to find something you like and are good at because that’s the route to 80% of our happiness, let’s be honest. We spend enough of our lives grafting so we kind of have to like it. I was so scared to look for a new job because I didn’t think I’d be good enough to bag a job anywhere else, but I did. I gained so much more confidence in my career and knowledge when I went for interviews elsewhere, a few companies I spoke to were so impressed by my experience and that gave me such a boost. I now love my job, I’ve learnt so much more about Digital and I can’t imagine where I’d be now if I hadn’t progressed to a new job. I’ve had so much more experience. I’ve learnt to believe in myself and be my biggest fan.

Blogging

I’ve learnt that anything is possible. I can’t believe how far Zest of Alice has come on in the past year. I’m so proud of my space on here and of myself for keeping going even when I felt like it was going nowhere. I can’t believe how many of you actually care about what I write about, take the time out of your day to visit this page and support me. I appreciate every reader, I promise. I have worked with brands this year that I could have only dreamed of last year, I still can’t believe my success. If it weren’t for you reading this, I may have given up. I feel like my creative writing has really come on to this year, I’ve learnt so much about punctuation and how to write properly! I can’t wait to see what next year brings.

Myself

I have learnt how to block out the haters. Literally. So many people have tried to bring me down, bring my blog down, say shit about me, therefore, I have built a thick skin. I’ve learnt to be who I am and say what I feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. I am me, and no one will ever change that. I have grown up in many ways this year and learnt how to do me the best I can.

 

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30 Comments

  • Reply Gina November 29, 2017 at 10:14 am

    This outfit is EVERYTHING – love the post! Definitely inspired me to write something similar x

    • Reply Alice November 29, 2017 at 11:01 am

      Thanks babe x

  • Reply Kelly-Anne | Mimi Rose and Me November 29, 2017 at 11:25 am

    Good for you pretty lady. Seems like you totally smashed 2017, what will 2018 bring you. Love that outfit too.

    • Reply Alice November 29, 2017 at 12:05 pm

      Thanks Kelly! x

  • Reply Robyn November 29, 2017 at 1:43 pm

    I love this post! So honest and inspiring! I’ve learnt very similar things especially when it comes to friendship and blogging. You should be proud of yourself girl! And your outfit is gorgeous ❤️

    • Reply Alice November 29, 2017 at 4:01 pm

      Thank you so much Robyn! xx

  • Reply Caitylis November 29, 2017 at 1:54 pm

    Totally agree with the statement about families and about Mums. My mum is the one and only true girl-friend for me. I’m so glad we have a strong relationship. I’ve also had to ‘finish’ some friendships this year because it was so one-sided. Putting in lots of effort and gaining nothing in return, after a long time of ‘putting up with it’ I decided enough was enough and wouldn’t let this person make me feel like shit anymore, and I feel so much happier for it!
    Much love, Caitylis x x

    • Reply Alice November 29, 2017 at 4:01 pm

      Mams are the best aren’t they! Go you, it takes a lot to move away from a friendship but it’s for the right reasons and you need to do what’s best for you! xx

  • Reply Rosie November 29, 2017 at 2:27 pm

    Yes I am loving such a reflectful post already! Good for you!! 2018 is going to be amazing for you!

    • Reply Alice November 29, 2017 at 4:02 pm

      Ah thank you so much Rosie! x

  • Reply Sally Morgan-Moore November 29, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    You OWN a life, super lady. Not only are you always so immaculately turned out, but you’ve got your head screwed on tightly too. May 2018 be just as successful and MORE for you.
    P.S I adore the relationship you have with your Mam xx

    Sally
    http://www.sallymorganmoore.com

    • Reply Alice November 29, 2017 at 4:02 pm

      Thank you so much, that is so lovely babe xx

  • Reply Meera November 29, 2017 at 3:14 pm

    Great post! I feel that I’ve learnt a lot of the same things you have this year too, especially the myself part x

    LoneTeenTraveller | Travel Fashion Lifestyle

    • Reply Alice November 29, 2017 at 4:02 pm

      Good for you babe! x

  • Reply Poppy Mayy November 30, 2017 at 10:23 am

    Such a lovely post. I agree with everything you said especially about friendship. As we get older we do change and so do our priorities therefore it’s important to evaluate friendships and make sure that both parties are getting something out of it. Too often these days many friendships are one sided and it’s not fair on everyone involved. Very wise words!

    • Reply Alice December 1, 2017 at 11:02 am

      Thanks Poppy! x

  • Reply Lady Writes November 30, 2017 at 11:11 am

    Totally agree with this and I’ve realised a lot of these myself this year too! x

    • Reply Alice December 1, 2017 at 11:03 am

      Thank you! x

  • Reply Beth Webb November 30, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    Such a lovely and honest post! Love it. It’s weird how sometimes life doesn’t turn out how you expect it to and how people can change so severely over time

    Beth x

    http://isthisseattaken.net

    • Reply Alice December 4, 2017 at 10:12 am

      Thank you Beth! x

  • Reply Caroline November 30, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    Love your outfit, especially those sunnies! 2017 has gone by so quickly, it’s scary. I really agree with what you said about friendships. I’ve had to cut some toxic people out of my life this year & it’s interesting to see who really cares about you when it comes down to it xx

    • Reply Alice December 4, 2017 at 10:11 am

      Thanks Caroline! I agree, so quick. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first don’t you xx

  • Reply Yasmina December 2, 2017 at 12:15 pm

    I absolutely love your outfit! I totally agree friendships can be so difficult especially as we grow but I have certainly learnt to put the same amount of effort in as other’s do with me 🙂 xx

    Yasmina | The July Journal

    • Reply Alice December 4, 2017 at 10:06 am

      Thanks Yasmina! Good for you girl! xx

  • Reply Victoria December 4, 2017 at 8:12 am

    It sounds like you’ve absolutely CRUSHED 2017! Good for you. I’ve done a similar thing with friendship(s). I haven’t actively stopped them, but they’ve just disintegrated as our lives have gone in different directions. It is kind of sad, but definitely for the best. I’m a lot happier, so I can only hope that she is too.

    • Reply Alice December 4, 2017 at 10:06 am

      Thanks Victoria! Lovely words. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first and move on x

  • Reply Stuart Forster December 7, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    And here’s to many more years of learning and plenty of pleasure along the way!

    • Reply Alice December 11, 2017 at 10:46 am

      Sure thing!

  • Reply Emily December 9, 2017 at 12:57 pm

    A great reflective post. I need to do one of these to see how 2017 has shaped me!

    • Reply Alice December 11, 2017 at 10:41 am

      Thanks Emily, glad you enjoyed 🙂

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