2017 has been a whirlwind for me. Not sure about you guys, but this year feels like it’s flown. That’s what happens when you’re an adult isn’t it, time flies. Years feel like weeks, hours feel like minutes and days feel like hours. It’s bizarre. I’m totally over being an adult this year too, it’s so overrated. I look back at my teenage years and think about how much I wanted to grow up and find myself, and now, present day, I think about how much I wish I was a carefree teenager! You live and you learn. And that’s the theme around today’s post, important life lessons I’ve learnt in 2017.
Friendship is something I’ve definitely learnt the meaning of this year. I’ve evaluated the people in my life, what they bring to me and it’s resulted in me losing a few friends along the way. I haven’t just said right, bye. Situations and a series of events have happened this year that has really made me realise who my true and real friends are. When you’re in school, you’re told by teachers, parents and family that these friends you make will be friends for life but that’s definitely not true for me. Some of my closest friends at school have now simply become acquaintances. Acquaintances that I have on Facebook or Instagram, I see in bars in town or bump into in Sainsbury’s. It’s a shame, but people’s lives move at different speeds. You almost outgrow people. I left sixth form and got a job, I grew up very quick whereas some of my other friends, now acquaintances, went to UNI and spent their weeknights going out, not going to bed early because they had work in the morning like me. I still have a close relationship with two or three girls I went to school with and it’s nice to have a small circle, to be honest, it’s less bitchy and less drama. We all lead busy lives now, we’ve all taken very different paths but we still make time for each other. I may not see my school friends as often as I’d like but they’re only a text away and it’s vice versa.
Effort and a two-way relationship are what makes a friendship work. When it’s only one way, and you’re making all the effort it gets hard. Distance yourself, see who reaches out to you. I’ve done that and learnt a lot. You can do so much for a person, yet have it all thrown back in your face and be left disappointed, but that’s just the way it is. I’ve learnt from fake friendships.
Family, where life begins and love never ends. I love that quote. And it’s so true. I wouldn’t be who I am today without my family and I am eternally grateful. This year has been a tough one for us, we’ve had to deal with certain situations and be strong together to get through it all and we have. There is no better support system than your family. My Mam is my hero and I look up to her so much. Your Mam is your first and only best friend, she knows you like no other. I’ve learnt this year that my family mean so much more to be than I ever thought.
Work has made me learn a lot about myself. This year I got a new job, it took a lot of courage, fear and anxiety to move on from a job where I’d found my feet within the working world and was comfy in. I’ve said this so many times on here but a comfort zone is a very nice place to be in but no one ever grows in a comfort zone and it was my time to grow. I’ve learnt that you have to love your job, you have to find something you like and are good at because that’s the route to 80% of our happiness, let’s be honest. We spend enough of our lives grafting so we kind of have to like it. I was so scared to look for a new job because I didn’t think I’d be good enough to bag a job anywhere else, but I did. I gained so much more confidence in my career and knowledge when I went for interviews elsewhere, a few companies I spoke to were so impressed by my experience and that gave me such a boost. I now love my job, I’ve learnt so much more about Digital and I can’t imagine where I’d be now if I hadn’t progressed to a new job. I’ve had so much more experience. I’ve learnt to believe in myself and be my biggest fan.
I’ve learnt that anything is possible. I can’t believe how far Zest of Alice has come on in the past year. I’m so proud of my space on here and of myself for keeping going even when I felt like it was going nowhere. I can’t believe how many of you actually care about what I write about, take the time out of your day to visit this page and support me. I appreciate every reader, I promise. I have worked with brands this year that I could have only dreamed of last year, I still can’t believe my success. If it weren’t for you reading this, I may have given up. I feel like my creative writing has really come on to this year, I’ve learnt so much about punctuation and how to write properly! I can’t wait to see what next year brings.
I have learnt how to block out the haters. Literally. So many people have tried to bring me down, bring my blog down, say shit about me, therefore, I have built a thick skin. I’ve learnt to be who I am and say what I feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. I am me, and no one will ever change that. I have grown up in many ways this year and learnt how to do me the best I can.